Younger and Wiser

Today I read something online that really made me think.. It was written by someone significantly younger than me, however I found a lot of wisdom in what she was saying in a mindless rant. It dealt with friendships, relationships, and character in general. To sum it up, I think what I realized the most through her post was to..

NEVER PITY YOURSELF
There is always something that can be done to better yourself

Here are a couple of things I need to constantly remind myself to change or to accept..

1) FRIENDS
If you're always complaining and being bitter towards the world, chances are no one really wants to be friends with you. No one wants to be around a constant Debbie Downer.. it kills the vibe of the group. If your friends are still friends with each other and you're the only one left out, chances are, it's your fault they aren't including you anymore. Whether it is because you have been secluding yourself because of a boyfriend, job, or laziness, they didn't just exclude you in a minute. You chose to slowly and gradually detach yourself from the group, because if they were of such importance to you, you wouldn't have let them drift away. If you want to be friends with them again, put yourself out there. They probably aren't hitting you up because when they did ask you to hangout, you were always MIA. Their efforts went unnoticed so they just stopped trying. Put your ego aside and call THEM first, instead of staying in bed pitying yourself about how you don't have any friends anymore. Having friends and people around you who care about you is vital. Always focusing your attention on only one aspect of your life isn't healthy.

2) RELATIONSHIPS
If you aren't happy about something in your relationship, change it up. You are in control of your life, so act upon how you feel. Whining about being sad is utterly useless.. and annoying. It's nice to vent sometimes, but people do NOT care what is going on with this aspect of your life because it is of absolutely no relevance to them. Their advice is also useless, because when it comes down to it, you probably won't listen to them anyways, since the "decision is ultimately up to you" and you'll "do what makes you happy". Also, do not make your relationship your life. Your life is not based off of what your "significant other" chooses to make of it. Your worth is not based off of how much you are loved by other people, but by how much you choose to love yourself. If you find worth in yourself, you will find worth in everything else around you. I've come to realizing that loving yourself is essential to being happy in life.

3) FAMILY
Always make time for people who love you as much as you love them, your family. This is something I always am telling myself, however I haven't really set aside time for them. Goal of 2012 is a better relationship with my family.. and pets.

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